Every now and then, I am reminded that clothes serve a practical purpose. Like the rooftops over our heads, they protect us from the elements.
Last week, Mr. Frump and I took a special trip to Oregon for our 20th anniversary. We spent a few days in Portland, one day traveling through the Willamette Valley wine country, and then a few days on the almost obscenely spectacular Oregon coast.
Seriously, people. If you get a chance to go there, do it.
I did one of my best packing jobs ever. I had my capsule wardrobe all planned. Knowing that the Pacific Northwest is often rainy and cool, I included a pair of long trousers, a long-sleeved shirt, and the brown, jean-style jacket that goes with everything. At the last minute, when the forecast told me it would be especially cool, I replaced two sleeveless tops with two long-sleeved ones, also adding a fleece vest. And it all still fit, easily, in my suitcase! I didn’t have to sit on my bag or fight with the zipper. This may be a first.
As always when traveling, shoes were a problem. The key is to pack (or wear) one pair that’s comfortable enough to walk in for miles, presentable enough to enter a restaurant, and versatile enough to be dressed up and down. In the cool weather months, I rely on ankle boots with a one and a half-inch heel. In the summer, I go with flat sandals. So you can probably predict the problem, right? Most of my cool-weather trousers are hemmed to go with a slight heel, whereas my lightweight summer clothes work with flats. I’ve found one or two combinations that bridge this gap, but not a reliable capsule wardrobe.
So my jeans stayed home. They’ve been a little tight lately, anyway (damn you, black raspberry Oreo ice cream!) They are also heavy to pack, and when you add in the shoe issue, it just wasn’t worth it. To hedge my bets, I threw in a pair of track pants and my running shoes. Even though they also take up too much suitcase space, I thought I might be inspired to go for a run. (Yes, I can hear you laughing from here. Shut up.) In an absolute emergency, if I was freezing to death, I knew I could wear these.
But there was further method to my madness. For awhile, I’ve been wanting to find a more casual pair of jeans to wear with lower-heeled shoes. Because not only are my other jeans a little snug, they were also made from a very dark, crisp denim, easier to dress up than to dress down. I figured if it was really cool in Oregon, I could use this as an excuse to find that new pair. And that’s exactly what I did.
The jeans were one of life’s happy little miracles. You can see them in every photo in this post. They fit me better than just about any jeans I’ve tried in recent years, and like all women, I consider myself difficult to fit. Even better, they were $15. They came from Talbot’s, originally, where I don’t usually shop. I got them at a secondhand chain store familiar to many of my readers: Buffalo Exchange.
The Portland store is conveniently located across from the most kick-ass independent bookstore on Earth, Powell’s Books. Oddly enough, I brought no books home. As an educator, I find this slightly disturbing. But come on: everybody knows that books are the heaviest things you can possibly pack in a suitcase! Heavier, even, than jeans.
Now, about those jeans. I am trying not to obsess about the fact that, in some of the photos, these look just a teeny bit like the dreaded “Mom jeans.” (If you’re fortunate enough to have never heard of these, just click here).
In real life, I don’t think they look like Mom jeans. They’re not tapered. And while the denim could be darker, it’s not too faded. Yes, that waistline is on the high side, but it is still below my natural waist! And who the hell decided that Mom jeans are any jeans with a rise higher than an inch above your personal lady parts?
But I digress.
The jeans fit very well, even from behind, which is often a problem for me. With my body type, it’s hard to find jeans that fit in the waist without bagging in the hips, thighs and seat.
Bottom line: I like these jeans. I need them, and I am going to enjoy wearing them, even if there are people out there who would brand them as “Mom jeans.”
But this was not the only clothing-related epiphany I had. The other was that bit about dressing for the elements. We were actually quite lucky, as we had a lot of sun during our trip. Though temperatures dipped to the low fifties, they were usually in the mid sixties to seventies. There were entire days when no rain fell at all; when it did, it was often a light spray that ended quickly. If you’ve ever been to the Pacific Northwest, especially along the coast, you know it often showers like this several times a day. You also never know whether your scenic drive will involve a walk through town, a visit to a fabulous little coffee shop or casual restaurant, or a scramble over rocks to stroll on a (miraculously!) empty beach. I needed to be prepared for anything, which brings me to the outfit pictured here:
The jacket, jeans, and shoes can travel from beach to town — provided that I unroll the jeans, of course. (Beaches are sandy, you know). The leather sandals are a little clunky, but again, if the jeans are lowered to the proper length, they blend in. The fleece vest came off as soon as I got out of the chilly coastal breeze.
I know the pink rain slicker is far from stylish, but it can be rolled in a ball and thrown in the bottom of my bag, and it weighs nothing. It also wraps oh-so-fetchingly (!) around the waist. This is actually very useful because, even if it’s sunny when you start your trek down to the beach, it could rain at any moment. We took more than one walk during which the raincoat came on and off several times in less than thirty minutes. And once that rain starts, you don’t want to be climbing back up those rocks, running for cover.
Once all the layers came off, I looked more like this:
Not a glamazon, by any stretch of the imagination. But still, in an area filled with casual, outdoorsy people doing rugged, athletic things in a natural setting beset by wind, rain, and constantly changing conditions, I felt like I could pretty much go anywhere.
Now, if I lived in the Pacific Northwest, a few things would have to change. I’d probably have to own something along these lines:
And perhaps, as well, some cool, outdoorsy, not-quite-sneakers, like these:
or perhaps these:
Because you know what happens when you wear open-toed shoes in a chilly rain? Your feet get cold. This is an obvious point that I still failed to anticipate, somehow.
In Oregon, people are quite casual, wearing their cool outdoorsy gear everywhere. They don’t look frumpy, just incredibly healthy and youthful and at home in nature. I know this, because while we were eating quite possibly the best restaurant meal I’ve ever had, I was sitting next to not one but two tables at which everybody was wearing jeans, windbreakers, and outdoorsy almost-sneakers.
Guess what? They swirled the Pinot Noir in their glasses just as expertly as the dressed-up folks. I am not kidding.
If I lived in a place like this, my perceptions of acceptable garb would have to change. But I promise you this: You will never, ever see me wearing my jeans together with the ugly running shoes. I will not waver; I will not settle. I am firm on this. Because everybody knows that nothing tips a not-quite-Mom-jean over into the Mom jean category faster than a clunky pair of sneakers.
I will not go gentle into that good night.
How does your personal style reflect the climate in which you live? Have you ever had to “recalibrate” your style in a new place? Be sure to visit “Visible Monday” over at Not Dead Yet Style, to see what all the fabulous women are wearing today!














What a gorgeous spot, Anne, thanks for the travel pics and review.
I am in complete agreement that the term Mom Jeans has been bandied about far too indiscriminately. You are not wearing MJs, my friend. : )
Did you enjoy Buffalo Exchange? I had a blast shopping there in NY, although it was very crowded. You scored, buying wear-everywhere jeans at a mini price! Thanks for linking up.
Thanks, Patti! I did enjoy Buffalo Exchange. It was lively but not too crowded (I was there early in the week, in the middle of the day, which probably helped!). They had a great selection — I had to stay focused in one area, letting some of the other racks go neglected.
Happy Anniversary! Seeing that coastline is one of my dream trips. Now that we have family in Oregon, maybe one day we will make it out there. Great post!
Oh, family in Oregon sounds like a wonderful opportunity! Hope you make it out there.
The Oregon Coast is near the top of my bucket. I’ve never been there…but your photos bear out the image I have of it in my mind. I did live in western Montana for a number of years and “mom” jeans were a daily garment for me and I wore them typically with a lightweight hiking boot! I still have a couple pair of Mom jeans, which I haul out when my tummy needs a little extra breathing space, especially in the winter. These jeans sound like they were a bargain and they fit really well.
Thanks, Terri. I highly recommend the Oregon coast, obviously! Hope you make it out there. I’ll bet you’d really like it.
Happy Anniversity! Glad you had a nice visit. The Oregon Coast is fabulous, even with the iffy weather. I know what you mean about the “fashion”. When you asked if I ever had to “recalibrate” my style in a new place, I immediately thought about all the fleece that will never get worn in Tulsa. And about all the sandals that I never wore in Seattle or Portland.
It’s too late to give you any tourist advice, but right around the corner from Buffalo Exchange is the best theatre where you can have really great food and watch a first run or art house style movie in a living room setting. And all the food truck to eat at! (I really miss the great food in Portland.)
Thanks for the wonderful pictures!
I’m pretty sure we saw the theater. If we’d been staying a little longer, we probably would have gone. We definitely ate at the food trucks, though. Portland is amazing. Did you live there, at some point? Or is it just a place that you visit in your travels?
When my husband got transferred to Tulsa. we put the house in Seattle (which we had owned for 25 years) on the market (aggressively). It sold immediately and we had to find a place for the (almost) year until the new fiscal year of his company began. We chose a loft in the Pearl District of Portland. It was amazing for the Summer. I still can’t handle another Northwest grey winter, but I would love to live every summer and fall for the rest of my life in Portland.
I loved that SNL spoof on Mom Jeans! But sorry, your jeans DO NOT QUALIFY. You look fantastic – relaxed and outdoorsy fresh. And I especially like the pink jacket tied around your waist as a great pop of colour. I am glad to hear, though, that you would not go gently into that grey zone! West coast Canada has a similar climate, and with an umbrella and rainproofing on my shoes, I’m good to go in anything! Happy Anniversary!
Thanks, Melanie! I have long been intrigued by the idea of visiting that part of Canada, as well. So many places, so little time…..
Oh yes!!!! Anticipating other climates in a single bag is a nightmare. Recent trip fro. Temperate to tropical and then on to extreme cold really stretched the capsule concept!!!! I settled for two different packing cubes….
I think I know what you mean by packing cubes — I was just reading yet another article about packing strategies. I am a total sucker for any and all packing tips. I’m amazed you pulled it off! Thanks for commenting.
The jeans look great. I don’t think they look like Mom jeans, but if Mom jeans look this good, who cares? I wore the dreaded jaw clip in my hair last week — scrunchies next! Oregon sounds like my kind of place. I love the combination of outdoorsy clothes and fine dining!
Ha ha, scrunchies! Guess what? I have been known to wear them, from time to time. In public! (They’re very protective for curly hair, when doing things like topknots or ponytails). And yes, you are so right — one of the things I really loved was that combination of outdoorsy casualness and really good food (and coffee, and wine, and beer, and chocolate…..)
The coast is lovely…my boss is there right now! I think the jeans fit you too well to be mom-jeans! usually mom-jeans are really baggy and unflattering…I really like Buffalo Exchange! My friend Gigi and I found some great things there last time we went and I want to hit it up soon for boots!! Thanks for being there over the last two years for great comments on my blog…I always look forward to what you have to say! happy Monday!
Thank you, Pam. Good luck finding your boots!
What a beautiful place! I like what you said about people in the restaurant swirling their wine just like sophisticates in other parts of the world. It is so true, we judge others according to our own perceptions. This is why travel is so important!
It’s so true. Every place has its own cultural character. Even if you are there for a relatively short time, and as a tourist, I think you still get a sense of this. And I love that.
Those are NOT Mom jeans. You look terrific. (I for one understand that you cannot possibly have a good time if you do not look good yourself!)
Hee! I knew my readers would understand.
I’m so jealous! I immediately recognized your location in the first photo. My son and family live in Portland while I’m stuck in Atlanta. You look wonderful and you’re right about the things you’d want to add to your wardrobe. Isn’t Buffalo Exchange great? Plus, Powell’s…sigh. I’ve featured a number of things I’ve thrifted in Portland, some of my favorites.
Yes, Portland has amazing thrift stores. Even though a few of them were a little too “hipster” for me (with clothes that would be cute on the young and hip but too costume-like for my daily wear), I still could have spent weeks poking around! Portland is a great city — I hope you still get to go up and visit!
Wow such stunning photos!!!! Looks like you had an awesome time! Those are so NOT mom jeans–unless they have a hidden elastic waist
Thanks, Tamera! Nope, no elastic waist.
I’m stopping by from a comment you left at rock the silver and had so much fun reading this post. I’m in Eugene, OR right now visiting my son – and we’re on to McMinnville today. So excited to spend some time in Portland (used to live there) and am meeting up with some friends for the Sister’s Outdoor Quilt Show. Cute jeans – you look great! And speaking of Powells Books – I’ve got tickets to see Cheryl Strayed (Wild) there on July 10th. I just finished that book. Also – I just posted about packing at middle age over at my place. anyway – I’m rambling – but am going to subscribe here – really enjoyed your POV. And yes – raincoats and practical shoes rule in the great NW.
Thank you so much! How wonderful that you are enjoying that part of the country right now. We passed right through McMinnville and stopped in at a great winery there. Have a fabulous time! And I am definitely going to check out your packing post.
As usual, I can only laugh as each one of your comments resonates perfectly with my own experiences. Packing too-small jeans – check. Confronting unexpected cold in the Pacific Northwest – check. Powell’s Books – check. (Note: you must DRIVE there, then you can simply load up your entire car with books and drive them home
) Mom jeans – check.
As to recalibrating my style to my new climate, oh yes, I should say so. In fact, there is some evidence that the human body also recalibrates itself to new climates, so I assume that when I moved from cool coast to hot desert, so many years ago, I went through not only some clothing adjustments but some metabolic and cardiovascular changes as well. Now when I go to a place that’s cold I am more sensitive to it than I ever thought possible.
The photos are beautiful and it looks like you had a great time. Isn’t Oregon just so beautiful? I love visiting that part of the country.
Oh, yeah. You KNOW I was wishing for that car when we were at Powell’s! But man, that would be a looooong drive. We’d love to go back, though, so who knows? You are right about that body re-calibration thing, too. My aunt grew up in a COLD weather climate but now is accustomed to Florida winters. She really can’t stand the cold now.
Happy Anniversary! Glad you guys had a great time. You look great – definitely not Mom jeans!
Thanks, Abby! And Happy Anniversary to you, as well!
To answer your question, yes I had to totally revamp my wardrobe when I moved from Boston to Phoenix over 20 years ago. First thing I had to get rid of was anything woolen which was very sad because I loved my sweaters. Even on the coldest day in Phoenix all you need is a couple of layers of cotton. And in the summer everything is too hot. There are times I miss the change of seasons until I get a call from my brother who lives in Concord Mass that it’s snowing and 28 degrees. Oh and I have been to Oregon…Canon Beach is amazing.
Boston to Phoenix is quite a change! I live within an hour of Boston, and we visited Phoenix in the summer, years ago. Wow! You are right about Cannon Beach — we went there on the last day, heading North, on our way back to Portland. So many gorgeous beaches on that coast.
My husband was born in Oregon…he still has family there. Have we ever visited? Not yet, but it’s on our list of places to go! Great pics!
Oh yes. You should definitely go.
Thanks for the comment!
In Southern California, where I live, we have the most pleasant weather you could wish for and you can wear open-toed shoes almost all year long. You never put your summer clothes away, because the thermostat can jump above 70 degrees any time of the year. What I have to prepare for is the darned air conditioning. I bring sweaters with me everywhere I go because for some reason, business owners seem to think that the ideal indoor temperature is 60 degrees. The warmer it is outside, the colder they keep it inside. My teeth chatter in restaurants. So if I think I’m going to wear a cute summer outfit and I don’t plan ahead for chilly interiors, and then as soon as I get where I’m going, I wreck it with a hoodie or whatever warm thing I have in the car.
Oh, I know what you mean! They overdo the A/C even here in New England, in the summer. You know it’s bad when you have to go outside to warm up! (And you can never find the PERFECT cute, versatile, appropriate-looking cardigan or jacket to solve this problem).
Happy 20th Anniversary Anne!!
Great post! I think you did a far better job packing than I did. You look fantastic!
Thank you! I am very much enjoying reading about your trip, as well. You look amazing. I’d love to know how you fit everything in!
Hi Ann!
Might be a surprise to you but i do enjoy your blog so much, when i get to it, and when iget to it i say to myself why did i take so long to get to it;)
Gee it is so complicated for women to pack, to dress, gee! Mr. D doesn’t have this problem
I think you look superb dear Lady!
I am going to Las Vegas soon and i will have to figure out my wardrobe!
About the dog in last my last post , it is not my pup, it’s a dog i saw in the Gay Village. I knew he would make a good pic
Take care
Ariane xxx
Oooooh, Las Vegas! TOO much decadent fun! I expect that place raises a whole ‘nother level of wardrobe challenges…..
Anne, I am learning how to dress for Pac Northwest- I don’t want to wear a coat like the ones they wear here! But I get why fleece and waterproof fabrics and hoodies are so ubiquiteous around these parts. Mom jeans make great shorts, but I wouldn’t describe your jeans as “mom jeans” I think of mom jeans as being very high waisted with curved hips and tapered ankles, ala 1980′s. I like the rinse of yours too, not too light, very wearable for evening or day. Anyhoo- I am hitting Portlandia next week, so I might be cruising that very same Buffalo Exchange!
I know what you mean. I have yet to invest in a more substantial raincoat, but if I did, I would prefer a more classic style, maybe a stylish trench or something, rather than one of those outdoorsy ones. And yeah, you should definitely hit BE! There are also LOTS of vintage/secondhand stores in Portland, which you probably knew. Some of the stores even give out maps showing them all! I got mine in one of the shops, but you can also download a version here: http://www.shopvintageportland.com/
Have fun!
Firstly I’m going to Portland in a couple of weeks and beyond excited! Although it’s only for a couple of days on business so I won’t get chance to look at the coast.
Second, you’re so lucky to find a pair of jeans that look great. I’m still looking! They look fab
Portland is a great city, Gail, so I think you’ll have a good time. There are nice views along the river, seen from many areas of town, and the whole city definitely has a unique character. And thanks for the compliment! With jeans, good fit is definitely the (elusive) holy grail!
Your wardrobe is perfect for your trip and good find on the jeans. We’re headed to Bend, OR next week so perhaps we’ll take the coastal route home instead. I would love to dress like the stylish, yet practical outdoorsy gal but find my love of makeup, flat ironed hair and big hoop earrings just don’t go with the easy chic of Columbia capris and Keen sandals.
Yeah; I’ll pass on the capris, too. There were actually one or two times when I almost felt overdressed. And I am never…. EVER….. the one who is overdressed! Interesting.
Happy Anniversary. It’s really satisfying to find jeans that fit your body type, so I can understand how happy you were to find those jeans.
Last week I had to buy a pair of running (really walking) shoes. Why do they make them so clunky and ugly? I chose the pair that I thought was the least ugly, and only will wear them for exercise.
You are right — there is really no good reason why athletic shoes should be so ugly! Maybe they want to make them unwearable in non-athletic situations, so we’ll buy more shoes!
What a great post! I went camping in oregon last summer and had to pack for blistering hot and super chilly. It was difficult.
I live in Los Angeles, and I’m convinced that LA wardrobes only work in LA. No walking. Lots of driving. Kinda dressy. Very sexy. The only things I can take with me on trips are my jeans. Everything else just looks silly.
I like your “mom” jeans. Very cute and classic I think. And what’s so bad about looking like a mom anyway?
Interesting. That “LA look” is heavily promoted in fashion circles, and it has always seemed so unrealistic. I never thought about the car culture out there, or the lack of seasons, but I think you’re right. That explains a lot!
Just found your blog after hearing about it from fellow Obies – love it! Glad to know that I’m not the only one who wants to look stylish and doesn’t get why mags rave over Great Lash.
Am taking a much needed vacation this fall with lots and lots of walking and would love to know the specs on the shoes you highlight and any recommendations for a super comfy shoe that can sustain hours of walking without looking orthopedic. Don’t want to frump out in Europe!!
Thanks!
Hi there, and thanks for commenting! I’m so sorry, but I don’t really know what those shoes are. I can’t tell a lie — I cheated, a little, and just searched Google images for shoes that looked like the type that interests me. I didn’t check the brands or model numbers before saving the images, and now I can’t find them again. (My goal was more to show what kinds of shoes I am picturing in my mind, not to promote particular shoes that I know). HOWEVER, the way I searched for them was by typing “Keen shoes” into my search, because Keen is a brand that I saw all over Oregon, and that I’ve seen in many outdoorsy stores. You might want to check them out — I just looked at their website, and they have lots of shoes that look similar to those. Good luck, and have a wonderful trip!
Black raspberry Oreo ice cream?
[thunk]
Oh, yeah. It exists. Apparently the new thing this year, as I’ve seen it at not one but TWO of my favorite ice cream stands!
It’s all over.
The jeans look fabulous on you, and I love the touch of pink rain slicker wrapped around your waist. We traveled the coast of Oregon and Washington up to Vancouver on our honeymoon in 1980. I’ve never seen a more beautiful beach!
In terms of style calibration, Colorado is a very ‘outdoor’ state. However, it doesn’t bother me to wear whatever I want, even if it isn’t the norm. I dress to please myself and feel comfortable doing so. Even though my friends dress more on the casual side, I’ve been known to wear a gown to a dinner party. The gowns need an outing too!
Ah, gowns! How wonderful! I need to get me one of those, some day. And aren’t you and Melanie sweet for interpreting that scraggly little rain slicker as a pop of color! I think that’s charitable, but I’ll take it.
Clothes have a practical purpose?
There is such as thing as raspberry Oreo ice cream?
You have given me much food for thought, Anne
Those aren’t “mom jeans” and they look terrific on you. Gotta love Talbots for great classic style and workmanship.
Yes, I’m realizing that I’ll need to give Talbots a second look. If nothing else, their trousers may work for my body type!
And yes, believe in the magic that is black raspberry Oreo ice cream. Coming soon to an ice cream stand near you!
It’s me again! Thought I’d stop by to get another breath of fresh, cool Oregon air, and to give you another award!
http://olderthanvintage.blogspot.com/2012/07/one-lovely-award.html
My husband and I went along the West Coast on our honeymoon. It’s a place of happy memories for me.
I find it difficult to pack for places where the temperature will be radically different from where I currently reside. It’s hard to imagine what it will be like.
Yes, you are very right. You pack long-sleeved shirts because you think, “Oh, it might be cool.” But “cool” is a purely theoretical concept until you actually get there. And then it’s like, “Oh…..yeah……”
Well. they don’t look like mom jeans to me and I think the outfit you are wearing is superb. It’s comfortable, relaxed but also very chic for such a practical outdoor outfit. Packing for places like Oregon is always a challenge as weather is so unpredicatable, but looks like you did a great job. Great photos too. Brings back some wonderful memories of my trip there last year. Portland is one of my favorite cities!
Yes, Portland is wonderful. They’ve done a great job in there city planning there. We were there 20 years ago, and it was nice then, but it’s even better now.
Happy anniversary and thanks for the fine post about packing for changeable & rainy summer weather. I was in Portland last week also and a lot of thought went into the capsule wardrobe I took along. OK, no one has asked….what is that wonderful restaurant?
No problem! It’s the Bay House on Siletz Bay, on the South side of Lincoln City. It’s definitely a bit of a splurge, but I thought it was totally worth it. They are very friendly and make you feel at home and welcome. And they have amazing views, too. http://www.thebayhouse.org/bayhouse.php?id=1